“Mom I need you”
“Mommy I’m hungry”
“Mom can you help me with my shoes?”
Mommy, MOMMY, MOMMMMMYYYYYY
I hear that about 30 trillion times a day. If you’re a fellow mom, I bet you do too.
Now let’s switch gears. When talking to others, instead of introducing myself as “Robin”, I tend to say, “Hi, I’m _______’s mom”.
AND 9 times out of 10, whether I’m with my children or not, they become the sole focus of my conversation.
With that said, I believe it’s safe to assume that my children take up 99.9999% of my time both physically and mentally. But, is .000009% enough energy to allocate to myself? Probably not.
Make that Definitely not.
And…..that’s where we as moms need to make a change. No, we shouldn’t slack off as parents, or spend less time or energy on our children. We love them more than anything and want to make these years memorable. But in all honesty, we can’t forget who we are as people. Our roles are not singular.
This brings me to the main point of my post. When do we as moms (or dads!!!) stop remembering who we are, what we enjoy, what our hopes and dreams are……and put all of that aside to be known only as “so and so’s mom/dad”?
This topic is a difficult one and a sensitive one, but nonetheless, important. It’s something I have been truly struggling with over the last year.
HOWEVER, you and I alike, do not need to wallow or give in and think, “well, being a mom is the only important job in my life”, because IT’S NOT. So, I challenge you (as I challenge myself) to start by making a list of all your hopes and dreams. Sounds corny, I know. But it really isn’t. These dreams, or goals, could be as small as making time to eat breakfast in the morning or as large as a big career change. Then, after making this list, get together with a friend, family member, colleague, professional, or anyone else you feel comfortable with, and map out how you can get started working towards these goals. It doesn’t matter if you only make one ounce of progress, as long as it’s forward progression, it will help you. Good luck friend, I know we can do it!
PS- I’d love to hear from some of you as to what your ideas
and dreams are & what your plans look like. I’ll be sure to post mine too!