Making 2020 Your Year

For years I’ve been just like everyone else- making New Years resolutions only to get lazy and slack off 2 weeks later or forget what I even promised in the first place. Eat healthier, stop cursing so much, do more exercise….blah blah blah. I can bet a million dollars you’re guilty of making these empty resolutions too.

This year, however, I’m determined to do things differently. How? I’m simply not making resolutions.

IF ONLY IT WERE THAT EASY!!!

Instead, I’ve been thinking about my life goals & decisions. The key word being -decision-. Instead of a resolution, promise, or any other adjective you’d like to insert in there, I’ve been trying to look at it all from a different perspective.

While reflecting one day….aka while drinking wine in the shower as my kids yelled from the other side of the locked door….I began to think, what do I really want out of life? What will make me happy in this new decade? What do I want to accomplish that will make me proud in the subsequent decade? Sure I’d love a boatload of money and to eat pizza every day while wearing Louboutins and galavanting the world……but once the buzz from my wine wore off and I actually got to thinking seriously about what I wanted, the ideas came flooding in. “How am I going to keep track of everything?” I thought to myself. My first instinct was to look at Pinterest. Let’s just say I was inundated with inspirational quotes and articles about how to integrate celery juice into your everyday life. No thanks. After a bit of searching, I stumbled upon what appeared to be another mundane article about vision boards. Something in me made me click the article and as I began to read, I could feel my perspective shifting. This particular author talked about how a vision board is simply a place to physically put your ideas. But it’s up to you to manifest them. Sounds easy, right? Cut out a bunch of cool looking pictures, paste them to a poster board, write “Vision Board” with your tween’s glitter gel pens, then voila!! Nope. Nope. Nope….

I once read a quote that said a dream is just a dream until you write it down, then it becomes a goal. But that goal doesn’t become anything more until you put forth actions. That’s when it becomes real. (or something along those lines). My point being, it became clear to me that I could still utilize the ever popular Vision Board, as long as I mapped out a way for me to manifest these goals into reality.

My particular board is still a work in progress….but don’t worry I promise to share it soon….

In the meantime, I’d love to hear feedback from readers. Do you have a vision board or something similar? Does it help you to accomplish your goals?

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Here are some steps that I’ve found truly helped me thus far:

  1. Ask Yourself What You Really Want

It’s that simple. If you don’t know where to start, try grabbing a blank piece of paper and jotting down everything that comes to mind when you envision your ideal life. Nothing is off limits here (except maybe a rainbow unicorn lol).

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2. Compartmentalize your Ideas

Placing your ideas into categories (ie: friends, family, personal development, health, money, travel) will help you map out the areas upon which you should focus on. After all, the law of attraction can’t work if you don’t know what you’re asking for.

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3. Create Action Steps

Similar to a wealth management advisor mapping out a financial plan, you can do the same with you life. Start small and think about how each day (or month, or year) you are going to attain that. I know in my goals, a big one was travel, so I started with one long weekend trip, then one extended family trip, working my way up to an international trip that involves intense planning & saving.

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Some Important Things to Remember:

  1. NO ONE IS JUDGING YOU.  I know it’s hard to believe because in today’s society there are no secrets and there is no discretion. People can be down right crude to one another. But guess what? This vision board & these goals- they’re YOURS. No one is going to see them unless you share them, and even if you do decide to share and the particular person(s) don’t agree….well fuck them…seriously. No one on this earth can tell you that what you want out of YOUR life is wrong. Always remember that.

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2. IT’S A WORK IN PROGRESS. Your visions & goals do not have to be static. Just as you grow and change, so will they. Don’t feel pressured to have to complete something the original way you wrote it down or envisioned it just because. Trust in yourself and your journey this life has given you. It’s ok to always be a work in progress. I feel like I am. b2cf4e799298e54e6dae4a22f8d7fd56

3. BE AUTHENTIC. This personal road map, or vision board, or mission, or goals, whatever you prefer to call it, is for only YOU. Try to let go of society’s norms and be authentic to what you want and what your heart tells you. Sounds a bit corny, but it’s true. As mentioned earlier, the Law of Attraction can only work if you put something out into the universe- so put out what YOU WANT….not what society tells you that you should want.

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At this point I believe I’ve covered how you and I can both work together to make 2020 OUR YEAR. Even if the only thing we do is create a vision board. 

 

xoxo Robin

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Family is Everything

I’m a strong believer in the phrase “Family is everything”. They will always love you, encourage you, and will be there for you when no one else is. I also vehemently believe that the term “family” does not have to mean blood relation. Some of the closest people to me are dear friends who I love even more than those who share my DNA.

I’m bringing this up is because my daughter recently did a Girl Scout project about her ancestry. While working on it with her, it got me thinking about my own ancestry and the true meaning of family.

For those who know me, you know that growing up I was extremely close to all four of my grandparents. My maternal grandparents were the quiet ones who showed love through cooking a hearty Sunday meal, or taking us out in the backyard to look at my papa’s vegetable garden. My paternal grandparents, however, were loving individuals who opened my eyes to the beauty of culture, travel, and simple pleasures such as that of a Beatles record or a game of cribbage. I vividly remember days spent with all four of these beautiful people who had such a large impact on the person I am today.

With that said, I’m very sad to report that none of my grandparents are on this earth today. Luckily, my three children got to meet most of them, and their stories live on throughout pictures, recipes, and verbal anecdotes. Therefore, I’m happy to share with you below some recent photos and a recipe I discovered & shared with my daughter for her project.

 

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My mother’s father in WW II with his picture of my grandmother always close by

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My paternal grandfather in the 1940’s. He had a wonderful smile 🙂

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My paternal grandmother as a teenager:  such a beauty

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My Nana in her younger years. She was so beautiful.

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My great-great grandfather who was born in southern England and immigrated to Canada in the mid-1800’s. Anyone who has ever seen my father will know that the resemblance between him and his great-grandfather is uncanny.

Irish Soda Bread

This recipe is from my maternal grandmother, Nora . She was born in America but her heritage was 100% Irish. Her family originated in the cities of Cork & Killarney in Southern Ireland.

Ingredients:

  • 4 cups flour
  • 4 tsp baking powder
  • 2 tsp sugar
  • ½ cup raisins
  • 2 cups buttermilk
  • 1 tsp baking soda
  • 1 tsp salt
  • 1 tbsp caraway seeds
  • ½ cup butter

Directions:

Sift together the flour, baking powder, baking soda, sugar, and salt. Gently add remaining ingredients and once dough is formed, turn out onto a floured surface. Carefully knead dough and shape into a round loaf. Bake in 350 degree pre-heated oven (on a parchment lined baking sheet) for 45-50 minutes, or until crust is golden brown.

**Note: be sure to place an “x” on the dough with a very sharp knife before baking. This represents the cross, and the purpose is to protect your household. Although my family is traditionally Roman Catholic, it’s a nice way to honor the tradition even if you do not share the exact beliefs**

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In the future I can only hope and pray that my children (& grandchildren) will think of me as fondly as I remember my grandparents.

xoxo Robin 

 

Mommies are Humans Too

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“Mom I need you”

“Mommy I’m hungry”

“Mom can you help me with my shoes?”

Mommy, MOMMY, MOMMMMMYYYYYY

I hear that about 30 trillion times a day. If you’re a fellow mom, I bet you do too.

Now let’s switch gears. When talking to others, instead of introducing myself as “Robin”, I tend to say, “Hi, I’m _______’s mom”.

AND 9 times out of 10, whether I’m with my children or not, they become the sole focus of my conversation.

With that said, I believe it’s safe to assume that my children take up 99.9999% of my time both physically and mentally. But, is .000009% enough energy to allocate to myself? Probably not.

Make that Definitely not.

And…..that’s where we as moms need to make a change. No, we shouldn’t slack off as parents, or spend less time or energy on our children. We love them more than anything and want to make these years memorable. But in all honesty, we can’t forget who we are as people. Our roles are not singular.

This brings me to the main point of my post. When do we as moms (or dads!!!) stop remembering who we are, what we enjoy, what our hopes and dreams are……and put all of that aside to be known only as “so and so’s mom/dad”?

This topic is a difficult one and a sensitive one, but nonetheless, important. It’s something I have been truly struggling with over the last year.

HOWEVER, you and I alike, do not need to wallow or give in and think, “well, being a mom is the only important job in my life”, because IT’S NOT. So, I challenge you (as I challenge myself) to start by making a list of all your hopes and dreams. Sounds corny, I know. But it really isn’t. These dreams, or goals, could be as small as making time to eat breakfast in the morning or as large as a big career change. Then, after making this list, get together with a friend, family member, colleague, professional, or anyone else you feel comfortable with, and map out how you can get started working towards these goals. It doesn’t matter if you only make one ounce of progress, as long as it’s forward progression, it will help you. Good luck friend, I know we can do it!

xo Robin

PS- I’d love to hear from some of you as to what your ideas

and dreams are & what your plans look like. I’ll be sure to post mine too!