Rabbit Rabbit

Note: I originally wrote this post ON FEB 2nd….but figured it was still worth it to post since there’s 2 weeks left in February to work on my goals. There were consistencies including snow days and children being sick too….sigh…

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Have you ever heard someone ring in the new month by saying, “Rabbit Rabbit” ? If not, it’s an old English tradition said to bring  luck throughout that month. For myself, I say, “sayonara January” and, “Helloooo February!”. The last few weeks were filled with snow days (both at school & work), doctor visits, illnesses for the kids, and some minor financial hiccups. Between the Polar Vortex stopping and Punxsutawney Phil NOT seeing his shadow…..bring on Spring! Or at least, bring on a month that gets us closer to Spring.

With that said, with each month I try to focus on a few small goals which over the course of 12 months should add up to larger ones.

My goals for February are as follows:

  1. Financial: This is an ongoing struggle as a working mom. Make money: check….make enough to justify daycare: FAIL. Regardless, my goal for this month is to save a little money from each paycheck, even if it ends up only being $5 a week. Something is better  than nothing, right?
  2. Self Care: Another ongoing theme in the balance of life. This is an important one though. My goal this month is to take baby steps and try something new in terms of self care- such as the recently opened salt cave nearby or finally signing up for that spin class I’ve been talking about for 6 months.
  3. Relationships: I’ve been noticing lately a bit of disconnect with my close family. It is sometimes hard to comprehend how you can live with 4 other people and feel disconnected, yet we are always on the go and rarely relaxing and spending genuine time together. Electronics have a lot to do with that as well. My goal for February is to take time out to unplug and have a sit down family meal or do something we love as a family, such as our hikes or Hudson Valley excursions. Maybe we’ll get crazy and even through a family game night in the mix  😉
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What are your goals? This is about the time where people give up on their New Years Resolutions too, so don’t beat yourself up if you’ve stopped going to the gym every day or said a couple f-bombs. Remember, each day is a NEW DAY, and a NEW CHANCE.

Wishing you a wonderful weekend,

 

XO Robin

Mommies are Humans Too

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“Mom I need you”

“Mommy I’m hungry”

“Mom can you help me with my shoes?”

Mommy, MOMMY, MOMMMMMYYYYYY

I hear that about 30 trillion times a day. If you’re a fellow mom, I bet you do too.

Now let’s switch gears. When talking to others, instead of introducing myself as “Robin”, I tend to say, “Hi, I’m _______’s mom”.

AND 9 times out of 10, whether I’m with my children or not, they become the sole focus of my conversation.

With that said, I believe it’s safe to assume that my children take up 99.9999% of my time both physically and mentally. But, is .000009% enough energy to allocate to myself? Probably not.

Make that Definitely not.

And…..that’s where we as moms need to make a change. No, we shouldn’t slack off as parents, or spend less time or energy on our children. We love them more than anything and want to make these years memorable. But in all honesty, we can’t forget who we are as people. Our roles are not singular.

This brings me to the main point of my post. When do we as moms (or dads!!!) stop remembering who we are, what we enjoy, what our hopes and dreams are……and put all of that aside to be known only as “so and so’s mom/dad”?

This topic is a difficult one and a sensitive one, but nonetheless, important. It’s something I have been truly struggling with over the last year.

HOWEVER, you and I alike, do not need to wallow or give in and think, “well, being a mom is the only important job in my life”, because IT’S NOT. So, I challenge you (as I challenge myself) to start by making a list of all your hopes and dreams. Sounds corny, I know. But it really isn’t. These dreams, or goals, could be as small as making time to eat breakfast in the morning or as large as a big career change. Then, after making this list, get together with a friend, family member, colleague, professional, or anyone else you feel comfortable with, and map out how you can get started working towards these goals. It doesn’t matter if you only make one ounce of progress, as long as it’s forward progression, it will help you. Good luck friend, I know we can do it!

xo Robin

PS- I’d love to hear from some of you as to what your ideas

and dreams are & what your plans look like. I’ll be sure to post mine too!

 

Challenge Day 1

Here I am at Day 1 of my 10 Day Positivity & Productivity Challenge. (Yes, I was supposed to start yesterday, but life happens, lol). Today’s instructions are for me to take some time to envision my dream life and what steps I need to take to get there.

“Pshhhh, this is going to be easy” I thought to myself this morning. It was 6:50am and I was sitting at my desk listening to my husband snore a few feet away. I began by breaking out my favorite journal and pink pen (what can I say, I was a 90’s kid and get easily excited by neon pens). First I decided to break up my “dream life” into categories. I’ve always been pretty clear on what I wanted family wise- a loving husband {Check},  and three to four children {Check}. In terms of my education category, I wanted to receive a higher education bachelors degree {Check}, masters degree {Check}, PHD- something I’d still like to achieve a few years down the road, once I’m solid in my area of study. Now comes the tough part of my “dream life”: the “everything else” category. This includes my travel desires, personal development expectations (ie: learn another language, learn to play an instrument, be confident in who I am as a woman), living situations (ie: type of home and where I want to life), and anything else miscellaneous (ie: join the circus……I’m joking…..I hate clowns lol). This last category proved to be the most difficult. I thought about it for 10 minutes before getting up to take care of my family and prepare them for the school / work day. After things had settled, I went back to my journal to complete the task at hand. It was fairly simple to complete the dreams, but not so much the steps on how to get there. That was when it dawned on me. This isn’t a static document, but one that can change with time. Sure the large dreams will stay the same, but the details can be worked out as I go along.

Overall, I have to say that this exercise was one that I truly enjoyed. It put a smile on my face to see in writing what I had accomplished, and made me excited for all the wonderful times ahead.

xo Robin